Five Fights You Can Not the Winner

Everybody has an opinion and that is a fact. Sensitive subjects like politics, religion, fashion or simply perspectives can spark a lively discussion. Who are we fooling here; they can start an argument every time. Now these are not the only topics that are touchy, but it’s a start. We will look at five (5) fights that you will never win, no mate how hard you try.

Views on politics are extremely touchy. I like this public figure, you like that one. I support this legislation and you don’t. If we were to get on the subject, it wouldn’t be long before the sparks flew. Fights about politics can never be won by either party. Why? Because both parties are going to hold to their position fiercely and will not be swayed. Therefore fights about politics will never be won and will end in a draw every single time. Don’t go there.

The same holds true for religious issues. This is a particularly sensitive topic and can cause a riff that will never be healed. At least for a long time anyway. You believe in God, I do not. The Bible is a factual book or a work of fiction? Either way, it is important to respect each other’s opinion and leave it at that. Trying to make someone see your way of thinking will only serve to alienate them further, so avoid this one, too.

Now we come to some fights that relate to relationships. Guys, let me tell you, it is the hardest thing in the world to keep peace with the little woman. The same may be said of some men as well (being objective!). I have found that there are at least three fights with your significant other that you cannot, will not and shall not EVER win.

The first of these is about her style and taste. When she asks you how her shoes, hair or jeans look, just tell her they are great. Even if you don’t think so. I know this seems like lying, but it’s more a case of keeping peace in your life because if you tell her she looks like crap, there will be blood; YOUR blood.

This is one of those fights that you can not only not win, but you could really hurt her feelings as well. Don’t do it. Please.

Then there are the issues of her circle of friends and her ex-boyfriends. When it comes to her friends, it is best to be entirely neutral and let her handle those. Under no circumstances do you ever comment that one of them is nice looking or has a personality flaw. It will not be well received in either situation. With the ex-bf’s, believe me, she KNOWS the mistakes she’s made and she STILL chose you. Don’t remind her of past relationship blunders. You cannot ever win either of these fights and IF you still want to reap the “benefits” of the relationship (wink,wink), don’t go to that place.

Now we have the penultimate fight that you cannot win with your mate-MONEY! Fights about money or finances have a way of returning at the worst possible time. It is better to sit down and discuss the options than it is to blame the other for the trouble. Discuss your money; don’t debate who did what because, guess what!, YOU CAN’T WIN THAT FIGHT!

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What exactly do we mean when we talk about gay spirituality? Since many of us grew up in religious organizations that told us we were abominations and unworthy sinners there are plenty of people within the GLBT community that aren't interested in religion. Others want some validation from the church and thus look for meaning in religion. If you take your spiritual journey, you'll find that the process can definitely be satisfying.

In many cases, whether we were ready or not, our spiritual quests started in our youth. Not all of us completely grasped why condemnation of the gay population bothered us so much. Some of us understood all too well.

This led to a natural progression of questions that were taken away from the church and into other possibilities. Some people created groups and offered emotional and spiritual support along with the fight for social justice.

Fortunately, spiritual answers do not necessarily have to come from a church or a person of religious affiliation. Not all of us culminate our gay spirituality quest on the steps of a religious building. We've gone from the efforts of a few brave religious figures reaching out toward the community to what are now known as open and affirming churches.

If your family is particularly religious it can be difficult to reconcile your emotional and spiritual ideas. Your emotional side remembers the prayers, the "treatments, " and the casting out while your spiritual ideas look further inside. There is no admission from the religious affiliations that cast you aside, and there is no confirmation from their view that you are just fine the way you are. That's for you to find out. Many would say that's for you to feel.

This means that you never have to set foot into an organized church if you prefer not to, as the answers aren't likely to come from a single man or woman of the cloth. Rather, spiritual answers tend to come from within. They come in the form of a loved one or a partner. They come in the form of a sense of self and a strong sense of owning your sexuality. They come in little tid bits all throughout life. They come in moments that you recognize but often aren't sure what to call them.

Historically, religions and spirituality do not even have to mean the same thing. While we make the associated connection, spiritual beliefs are of a totally different make and model. Religion is a taught belief system. Spiritual beliefs are a felt and internal belief system. Bringing the two together can be an interesting challenge but one that can be done in your own way. Having the option to figure out what works for you is really the key.

You can join the open and affirming churches and learn to grasp your gay spirituality if you choose. It can be a great place to debate and discuss. Or you can create your own private moments that offer you a reflective chance to decide for yourself. The journey simply never really has to end.

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